Love Doesn’t Divide

“True love doesn’t divide, it multiplies.” Mr. George Mathews.

Every Saturday evening us High Schoolers would go to youth group at an older couple’s home; Mr. and Mrs. Mathews. I was easily the quietest one in the group, happy to just observe and listen to all the others in the room.

One time, Mr. Mathews purposely sat beside me and did his best to start up a meaningful conversation. Proof that he succeeded is the fact that I remember it to this day. His talk went something like this:

Reggie, I want to talk with you about love. How true love works. When I married Virginia XX number of years ago, I truly loved her with all my heart. A year later, our first son, Hank, was born. Now there are two people for me to love. Do you think that I loved Virginia less? 

[I probably shrugged my shoulders as my answer.]

I want you to know, Reggie, that love doesn’t divide, it multiplies. The love I had for Virginia didn’t get smaller or weaker, it doubled because of Hank.

Then we had four more sons and then finally Pete was born. This left me with 7 people to love. Do you think I can love each one of them with all my heart, or is my love divided?

[Probably another shrug of the shoulders from me].

Reggie, love doesn’t divide, true love multiplies! With every addition to my family, God caused my heart to grow bigger. I love Virginia now more than ever. I also love each one of my sons, and their families, with that very same love. Through this experience I can understand how God loves everyone. “For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten Son…” John 3:16. This is how true love works.

These words from Mr. Mathews were absolutely on a level I could understand. He spoke in simple language about perhaps the most miraculous thing we can experience.

N.B. This article is excerpted from a manuscript of mine looking to be published—The Foundation Stones of Teaching.

Let’s Apprehend Hope

Words do silly things:

The noun “Apprehension” is defined as “a fear or anxiety about something.”

The verb “to Apprehend” is defined as “to take hold of,” “to come into possession of.”

BUT, no one wants to apprehend [come into possession of] apprehension [fear and anxiety]!

We want to shed it, overcome it, to remove the anxieties and fears that haunt us. To be rid of it and live on a higher plane.  We would love to throw all our anxieties into a bottomless pit and banish them forever.

How can this be done?

This past year has created all sorts of apprehension among us humans in all stages and walks of life. The pandemic, the economy, shutdowns, elections, sickness, and loss of life, have assaulted our hearts with fears, doubts, insecurities – apprehensions.

To apprehend is to face the causes of apprehension and willfully overcome them.  

We have been hurt physically, mentally, emotionally, economically, relationally, and spiritually. Some of us may have considered dropping out permanently. Life deals tough blows. But here we are. Still moving forward. Still looking for light, relief, peace, belonging and joy.

Hope requires a decision (actually, repeated decisions), but willpower alone is not enough. We need help from outside ourselves. We can receive this help from trusted friends, relatives, counselors, and most of all, our Loving Father, the Royal Son, and the Resident Advocate (Eph. 1:3-14).

God wants to relate with us honestly, with integrity. Look at how David approached Him. “Be gracious to me, Adonai, because I am withering away; heal me, Adonai, because my bones are shaking…I am worn out with groaning; all night I drench my bed with tears…Adonai has heard the sound of my weeping, Adonai has heard my pleading, Adonai will accept my prayer.” Psa. 6:2,6,8,9 (Complete Jewish Bible). Wherever we find ourselves, be genuine with God.

A most incredible truth in the universe is that God “hearts” each one of us.

Let us encourage one another in this journey; assist each other along the way. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Pride gets us nowhere. It is up to us as individuals, families, communities, churches, etc. to turn the noun into the verb, for ourselves and for others.

More will be written about this in the next two weeks. Hope is not a flimsy feeling; Biblical hope is a most powerful, transformational force.

The first follow-up post is here:

Let’s overcome apprehension by fully apprehending hope!